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Full disclosure: I am writing just as much for my benefit as for the readers. :)

Are you sabotaging yourself? I realize the term is relative and a matter of opinion, but here are some tell-tell signs you may be your own worst enemy:

Your self-talk is more negative than positive. I don’t think I need to elaborate here.

You don’t have a plan. You can’t show up at the gym and just expect to get results (or as quickly) without a roadmap to get there. That’s why working with a certified personal trainer is so helpful.

Your goals are unrealistic. One of the reasons people abandon a fitness regime is that they set the bar too high. While it’s possible to see results in a month, it’s going to take several to transform your body and create lasting change. Trust me, I know this firsthand.

You don’t have anyone holding you accountable. Whether a friend, family member or partner, it’s helpful to have someone keeping you in check. You may have the best intentions but life can get in the way. It’s good to introduce a healthy amount of pressure.

You compare yourself to others. As they say, “comparison is the thief of joy.” If you spend considerable time and energy on others’ progress you’re only taking away from your own pursuits. Remember this the next time you see a social media post that makes you a bit envious.

You fixate on setbacks. There will always be highs and lows in your fitness journey. When you do experience a plateau or you fall back into old ways, remind yourself how far you’ve come.

You’ve fallen into the “all-or-nothing” trap. If you miss a workout, don’t linger too long. You have so many other chances during the week to show up for yourself.

Can you relate to any of these?

I wrote this post last summer for another platform and am sharing it here, as it answers a lot of frequently asked questions.

"Journey: an act of traveling from one place to another.”

People can go on various journeys in a lifetime. For me, it was one 5 years in the making—going from unhealthy, obese and self-conscious to one where I am happy, healthy and comfortable in my own skin. It could be said that the 55 pounds (and 15% percent body fat) I’ve shed are the byproduct of my hard work and dedication over the past few years.

When I first set out to “lose weight,” in 2013, it was a crusade driven in part by my genetic predisposition. I knew diabetes and heart disease didn’t have to be my destiny. (Both of my maternal grandparents died of heart disease.) I also was obese and not happy in my own skin. I wanted better for myself. So, with the support of my family and friends, I made the first step that would turn into a 5-year quest for improved health.

Today, when people hear about my commitment to health and fitness (and subsequent weight loss), they often ask: “So, how did you do it?”

I believe it comes down to the following factors. (Spoiler alert: some are unpleasant truths):

1) Sacrifice: You will undoubtedly have to give up some things to make space for your commitment to yourself. Some might even call you selfish and question your motives. It can be a lonely journey at times, but the rewards are worth it. I’ve had to make some tough choices about how I spend my time, but you should know that you should never have to justify putting your health first.

2) Grace: In the last 5 years I’ve experienced some great sadness and grief. (Both my father and father in law died in a year’s time, among other things.) There were times I wanted to throw in the towel, because I was so spent emotionally. And sometimes I didn’t feel like working out or cooking. So I didn’t. Give yourself permission to take a break and then get back on the wagon when the timing is right. The gym will be there.

Also, the trajectory is never a straight line. I’ve had weeks where my diet was off and my workouts fell to the back burner. I’ve been so close to a goal only to regress. What matters is that you recommit to yourself and your goals.

I’ve also had my share of chronic health problems that were undiagnosed until about two years ago and stymying my progress. (Hello, hypothyroidism.) Side note: you have to be your own advocate in the healthcare space.

3) Joy: I tell my clients that among the single most important predictors of adherence to an exercise program is enjoyment. Do you like to run? Are weights your thing? How about group classes? Whatever it is, you have to enjoy it or else you’re essentially sabotaging yourself and you won’t get results. I had a brief period when I was trying to run — it actually worked against me. I hated it and my body started to hold onto fat. It was very discouraging. Once I cut back on the cardio and committed to a strength training regimen, I saw the greatest results. Every body is different. You have to find what brings you joy and gets you results.

4) Consistency: Change does not occur overnight. It can take months or even years to reach a goal. (I know this firsthand.) But committing to something, no matter how seemingly modest or insignificant, can yield great results. Think of the tortoise and the hare. While it took a multi-year commitment to get where I am today, I am better for it. There’s no magic pill that can substitute for a sensible diet and adequate exercise. (I want to scream this from the mountaintops!)

5) Community: Find your tribe. When I first re-committed to consistent exercise, I found kickboxing and it proved to be a great outlet for me in more ways than one. I met a great group of women with similar goals. I found a way to improve my health, boost confidence and learn a few self-defense moves at the same time. Whether it’s a friend who serves as an accountability buddy or a personal trainer, it’s been proven that people are more successful when they have someone else behind them.

I hope my story was helpful. I did it. And so can you.