Are you sabotaging yourself?

Full disclosure: I am writing just as much for my benefit as for the readers. :)

Are you sabotaging yourself? I realize the term is relative and a matter of opinion, but here are some tell-tell signs you may be your own worst enemy:

Your self-talk is more negative than positive. I don’t think I need to elaborate here.

You don’t have a plan. You can’t show up at the gym and just expect to get results (or as quickly) without a roadmap to get there. That’s why working with a certified personal trainer is so helpful.

Your goals are unrealistic. One of the reasons people abandon a fitness regime is that they set the bar too high. While it’s possible to see results in a month, it’s going to take several to transform your body and create lasting change. Trust me, I know this firsthand.

You don’t have anyone holding you accountable. Whether a friend, family member or partner, it’s helpful to have someone keeping you in check. You may have the best intentions but life can get in the way. It’s good to introduce a healthy amount of pressure.

You compare yourself to others. As they say, “comparison is the thief of joy.” If you spend considerable time and energy on others’ progress you’re only taking away from your own pursuits. Remember this the next time you see a social media post that makes you a bit envious.

You fixate on setbacks. There will always be highs and lows in your fitness journey. When you do experience a plateau or you fall back into old ways, remind yourself how far you’ve come.

You’ve fallen into the “all-or-nothing” trap. If you miss a workout, don’t linger too long. You have so many other chances during the week to show up for yourself.

Can you relate to any of these?

5 ways to feel more confident at the gym

Feel like a fish out of water at the gym? You’re not alone. When I was new to fitness, I felt insecure and unsure of myself. But I didn’t let that stop my progress. Following are ways to feel more acclimated to a gym setting:

1. Practice exercises at home.

One way to feel more at ease at the gym is to have a familiarity with the basics. Start with bodyweight moves, like squats, push-ups, lunges and core exercises. This is a good way to build confidence so you can work your way up to more advanced moves. 

2. Have a game plan.

You can beat insecurity by hitting the gym with a prescribed workout plan. Don't just settle for something you find on the internet, though. Instead, consult a trainer to help you develop a program specific to your goals and abilities. 

3. Build a playlist.

Your favorite music, especially if upbeat and energetic, can provide a soundtrack to your workout and keep your spirits up. So don’t be afraid to build a playlist and rock out between reps.

4. Be kind to yourself.

Between each set that you perform, take a look in the mirror or pause for a moment and give yourself a compliment. Positive self-talk is powerful!

5. Find a workout buddy.

There’s strength in numbers. Not only can a workout partner keep you accountable, they can help calm some of those newbie jitters. 

Remember, every gym rat was once a newbie. Consistency is key. Show up and over time you’ll feel more at home at the gym. You’ve got this!